Give your old, familiar stories the pink slip and get a promotion for the real you

When you start living a life of Straight Truth, you’ll quickly find you have a desire to shed a lot of those old stories, beliefs and habits that keep you stuck in a rut.

But sometimes it’s hard to see in yourself what’s grist for the mill and what’s dead weight. So why not use our Dinner Party Revolution idea to get to the heart of the matter?

After plating the crab cakes, mustard greens with sweet red pepper, quinoa cantaloupe salad, each guest could take turns posing this to another: “The part of you I’d like to see you ‘pink slip’ is this and the part of you I’d like to see you move to a corner office is that.” Now that would be an amazing party. And I promise everyone will say goodnight feeling more alive than ever.

Some of what I’d imagine you’d hear at the party is this:

Jane: You need to pink slip the you who claims to be too fat. It’s a lie! “Too fat” is not who you are. We don’t love you because you’re pretty. We love you because your soul is beautiful and because when you walk into the room everything changes. Your smile engenders smiles. Your style captivates. The enthusiasm in your voice hooks everyone. What power you have over others! Everyone in your presence has their tail wagging waiting to get patted on the head. Jane, move the you who is “too phat” to the corner office and never let that “too fat” talk surface again.

Todd: You need to pink slip being a wise ass; it’s not who you are. You’re actually a wise man. You’re exceptionally gifted in framing the world, and every pearl of wisdom you offer is immensely helpful to all. I can’t think of a better person to be in a fox hole with during crises. But be it your sarcasm or your need to have the final word, we approach you with caution. And too often a disconnect occurs because when you lead from your head, the relationship with us is dead. Todd, we all know that chances are slim that Oprah will sing the praises of our latest innovation or that our dream journals and shaman’s suggestions are really magical. But we don’t need you to diminish our vision. We need you to do your magic to it by expanding our vision. We want you to be curious—not always so precise. In fact, that all-knowing thing you’ve got is what stops you from growing. So move the wise man to the corner office and give the wise ass the pink slip blues.

Susan: We know that hating on your parents makes the list of “stuff white people like.” But you’re not even white! And you’re certainly not an innocent. So pink slip the professional victim. Can her. Tell her to go troll somewhere else. Your mother did wrong giving you her undivided attention and overindulging you. She robbed you of the opportunity to decorate your first apartment with used furniture. And even now, she never lets you the struggle with the challenge of finding a sitter on the weekends. When you gripe and moan about all this it diminishes the real you. You have the most powerful voice of all of us at this table. Who but you could get an old roller skating rink on the historical register and prevent a tear down? Who got our city’s recycling center going? And who’s responsible for the Save Darfur signs in our front yards along with half the town? So we say to move the professional vixen to the corner office and never kick that faux victim to the curb.

Doesn’t this sound like a life-changing party?

Remember: Although what you and your friends can do for one another to promote the real you and discard the fake version is paramount to what I can do for you, I’d love to help you unpack that baggage you’ve been carrying. Let’s work together to sort through it all so we can unleash the real you that we all love.

Be peace, be love,

Jerome!

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Daniel DeMonico April 16, 2012 at 9:14 pm

This is my favorite blog post of yours yet. I also think that those of us with fragile egos would have a hard time hearing something like that at a dinner party. I guess that’s one thing that someone could tell me to “pink slip”, my fragile ego. Best post yet.

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Robin April 16, 2012 at 9:28 pm

Who is going to plan a meal that everyone will enjoy. She doesnt do fish, he does not like meat, everyone is sick of chicken. As you get older its hard to plan a menu with friends? Also who is going to do the dishes and clean up.
Sometimes its hard to have fun.

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Anne April 17, 2012 at 1:24 am

I’m thinkin’ that dinner party might make a good sitcom.

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Bob Pate April 17, 2012 at 3:21 pm

Bravo Jerome!!!!! I agree with Daniel’s “fragile ego” remarks, however, when said in the spirit of love, even the most delicate egos can rejoice in the truth.

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Daniel DeMonico April 17, 2012 at 6:32 pm

I think the difficulty is one of the selling points for the “Dinner Party” approach. When something is difficult and challenging, that’s what the brain latches onto in order to get its “Dopamine rush”. When something requires us to invest mental and sometimes physical energy and then when successful results follow, we feel energized and far less depressed or lethargic. The energy or satisfaction we experience is the brain getting its “Dopamine” rush. In fact, Jerome just recently enlightened me with this concept on what creates a Dopamine rush. It doesn’t just have to be a dinner party, but I think a dinner party in order to also be “communal”.

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